- Meg Moseley, whose novel about a woman’s battle to break free from a cultic group releases next year, wrote a touching announcement entitled “Freedom for Quivering Daughters”. Meg’s beautiful endorsement of this work is a treasure.
- Cindy Kunsman’s “First Entry in My Quivering Daughter’s Diary” made me cry, too. I am so pleased that she wrote the Afterword to my book, and her reflections after reading the finished work are especially tender for me.
- Karen Campbell has posted “Quivering Daughters Hot Off the Press” and will be holding a giveaway in a few weeks during her upcoming Patriarchy Two podcast series. Karen is one of the very first people I interacted with online who showed interest in this book, and I am so honored that she also has written a lovely recommendation.
If you do not care to purchase online, the book can be ordered in-store at Barnes and Noble.
- ISBN-10: 0984468609
- ISBN-13: 9780984468607
|Rachel Held Evans|
In fact, we’re afraid of doubt. We pray against it. We writhe thinking of Doubting Thomas and say we would never be him, pressing away insecurities, clamping a hand over our mouths and hanging on to the answers that make us feel safe. Somehow we’ve equated ‘not having an answer’ with being a poor witness or lacking in faith.
Perhaps this seems incongruous with writing about the hurtful effects of spiritual and emotional abuse in the family structure. Although there have been many repercussions (fruits) spiritually, emotionally, and in other ways that I’ve encountered and had to work my way through, hand in hand with the Lord, it is because of this that I can sit here today in obedience to His calling. Additionally, it is understood that not every family will practice the same things in the same manner. (For example, when I was growing up, Vision Forum didn’t even exist ~ although I have many readers who now experience the teachings and beliefs that are promoted by them. And for another example, in their wisdom, my parents did not get into Gothard like many of our homeschooling friends did. And yet I have many readers who were part of ATI. And the fruits of those teachings ~ some of the effects on the daughters of patriarchy ~ are some of what I address in this blog. ) Does this mean that any of our families were all wrong? No, and I don’t know how else to state that I’m not saying they are. I hope and pray that where I lack in my communication the Lord will help me.
So how is your Father’s Day?
Fridays at Quivering Daughters are dedicated to my blogger friends…the ones who take the time to follow this blog or who pen words that inspire, challenge, or encourage me throughout the week. What have you found particularly intriguing or inspiring? Please feel free to leave a link in the comments so others can visit, too! God bless you.
“Without trying to be antagonistic, I am curious why so many have continued in the christian religion after their experiences with it. I was raised as a strong Protestant, and had spent years studying the Bible and Christian theology, but subsequent to my experiences with a man who controlled his daughter/family to the point of ruining a relationship, I realized that trying to pick and choose which parts of Christianity gave birth to it was impossible. So, I am interested why so many here are moving forward with that intent.” (From Commandments of Men | New Blog)
“Not to join in the mutual misery society, but having likewise been through a failed relationship with a girl because of her father and her refusal to actually commit…similar to many of the details that “Lewis” has shared…I have one question: Why do any of you continue to be christian? Once I learned what the end result was, I washed my hands of it all; and I’m curious why so many of you who have been through similar situations continue in the very ideology that gave birth to the abuse.” (From When You Love a Daughter of Patriarchy.)
In other words, why have you kept the faith despite spiritual abuse?
“In my dealings with a group of hyper-fundamentalists, I’ve seen how a father raised his children (particularly his daughters) in such a way as to create dependency on his “authority”. For instance, if you want to control a daughter’s choice of men through a process such as courtship, there’s no better way to accomplish this than to raise her to be insecure, indecisive, afraid of her own shadow emotionally and convinced of the wickedness of her heart, and indoctrinating her to believe that any means other than courtship can’t be blessed of God. Make her need you. Create the demand, then demand to meet the demand. And it’s all based on the notion of “protection”. If you fail to comply, life becomes very hard very fast. People can debate intent, but many of the men fervently carrying out their patriarchal practices won’t stop short of killing the spirit of a son or daughter (daughters particularly) to maintain their control. My ex-fiancee’s father was trying to “protect” her from people and things which pose a threat to him. Her well-being had little to do with it.”
For more, please view Commandments of Men.