The Over-Controlled Adult Child

The Over-Controlled Adult Child When I was little, I had a child’s pocketbook story that illustrated, in soft pastels, the fruits of the Spirit. I could recite them in thirds like a clumsy waltz: “Love, joy, peace. Long-suffering, kindness, goodness. Faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control. Mom, what is long-suffering?” I kept these fruits close and studied them, […]

The Over-Controlled Adult Child

The Over-Controlled Adult Child When I was little, I had a child’s pocketbook story that illustrated, in soft pastels, the fruits of the Spirit. I could recite them in thirds like a clumsy waltz: “Love, joy, peace. Long-suffering, kindness, goodness. Faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control. Mom, what is long-suffering?” I kept these fruits close and studied them, […]

Who is Your God?

Who is Your God? by Hillary McFarland “I'm okay with Jesus. It's God I'm not too sure about.” or many daughters of patriarchy, God is an imposing figure. Why wouldn't He be? His name is the one attached to doctrines of men. He is the why behind many destructive religious lifestyle choices. From the earliest […]

Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual Abuse **This post was formerly titled “Spiritual Abuse in the Family.” I have updated and reposted it here. ** Many resources exist for those who have experienced horrendous spiritual abuse within churches or other religious organizations. I am so grateful for those who have followed their calling to minister to the brokenhearted within Christendom–the […]

What is Authoritarian Parenting?

What is Authoritarian Parenting? by Hillary McFarland ometimes when trying to understand a difficult or complex idea, it helps to see a contrast.  I’ve stated before that I believe authoritarianism is evil and completely contradicts Jesus’ ministry, His teachings, and His life. For a woman raised within an authoritarian environment, especially one of a religious […]

The Myth of “Normal”

The Myth of “Normal” When I was young, I envied those who told breath-catching testimonials of how they came to Christ. I  listened, enraptured, to stories featured on our local religious radio station and dreamed of how thrilled God must be with these dramatically-acquired souls. Many met Him in death-defying places; others spoke of time […]

An Ultimate Question: Will God Protect My Kids? (by Brant Hansen)

An Ultimate Question: Will God Protect My Kids? (by Brant Hansen) Eric’s Note: Brant Hansen is the host of the Christian radio program “Mornings With Brant,” which, unlike some other Christian radio programs, includes irony, accordion playing, and actually talking about Jesus. This recent post from his blog falls into the latter category. For those […]

Mind Control and the Adult Child | Pt. 1

Mind Control and the Adult Child | Pt. 1 “In their zeal for producing godly offspring, many well-meaning parents insert themselves in their adult children’s lives in ways that are deeply inappropriate and hinder them from growth and maturity. Addressing the effects of this does not mean they are inherently bad parents or that we […]

The Over-Controlled Adult Child

The Over-Controlled Adult Child When I was little, I had a child’s pocketbook story that illustrated, in soft pastels, the fruits of the Spirit. I could recite them in thirds like a clumsy waltz: “Love, joy, peace. Long-suffering, kindness, goodness. Faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control. Mom, what is long-suffering?” I kept these fruits close and studied them, […]

The Over-Controlled Adult Child

The Over-Controlled Adult Child When I was little, I had a child’s pocketbook story that illustrated, in soft pastels, the fruits of the Spirit. I could recite them in thirds like a clumsy waltz: “Love, joy, peace. Long-suffering, kindness, goodness. Faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control. Mom, what is long-suffering?” I kept these fruits close and studied them, […]